The best military sci fi books care less about the hardware than about the people who carry it, and the first choice is which war you want to live inside. Part of the subgenre is standalone novels you finish over a weekend, and the rest is book one of a sequence that runs a dozen volumes deep, so the opening chapter has to earn a lot.
Old Man's War is the door in for most people: a seventy-five-year-old recruit, one complete story, and no invented vocabulary to learn first. Readers who want the argument rather than the adventure should start with The Light Brigade, which puts a grunt inside a war whose official story stops adding up.
Military science fiction splits along two lines that matter before you buy: how much of the page count is actual combat, and how many more volumes wait behind book one. The other useful question is who the soldier is, because a volunteer, a conscript and a lab-grown weapon produce very different books.