Eat Yo Own Spaghetti - Paperback

Eat Yo Own Spaghetti: Reflections on Life, Love, and Reclaiming Your Power is a bold, intimate collection of essays about choosing yourself and reclaiming your story after life, love, or loss tries to take it from you.

Blending memoir, metaphor, and cultural critique, Courtney Shelley reclaims the infamous "spaghetti spell" trope. Once framed as a woman's desperate attempt to bind a man to her, Shelley turns it inward: eat your own spaghetti, bind yourself to yourself. Across twenty-nine chapters, she explores heartbreak, betrayal, grief, joy, and rebirth, showing how the act of self-reclamation becomes its own kind of spell.

Rooted in Black womanhood, her voice is sharp, vulnerable, and deeply affirming. She speaks to anyone who has ever stayed too long, loved too hard, or doubted their own strength. Perfect for readers of Glennon Doyle's Untamed or bell hooks' All About Love, this book is a mirror, a challenge, and an invitation: claim your softness, honor your story, and make your own plate.