Do you secretly berate yourself over a lack of patience and compassion for your widower's heartache? Are you ashamed of your insensitivity toward the surviving loved ones? Do you go to great lengths to help facilitate the grieving process? Do you feel rejected by the children, former in-laws, or others who are not ready to see the surviving husband move on? If so, you aren't alone. Denise Medany's One Heart Too Many offers a pragmatic "take no prisoners" approach to dealing with the challenges of loving a widower. This no-nonsense guide reveals the struggle to move on and how you may be contributing to or even prolonging the problem.
Each chapter offers a detailed account of actual situations experienced by different women who are in love with a widower. In her tough, uncompromising style, the author provides thought-provoking perspectives on the questions that plague many women:
- Am I "Plan B"?
- How can I get his children or others to accept me?
- Was he happier with his late wife?
- When will he stop hiding our relationship from his friends and family?
- What can I do about people posting memories of the late wife on social media?
- Why can't he take down her photos?
- Does he miss her more than he loves me?
Full of suggestions, real-life relationship scenarios, "Guidelines at a Glance," and an open letter to the widower, One Heart Too Many helps you to determine and set your boundaries, deal with difficult relationship issues, and relate to them on an entirely different level.
