A Violent Marriage: An Abused Husband Defeats An Abusive American Wife

This book is dedicated to the many men who are now or who have been abused by women who treat them in a cruel, humiliating, disrepectful, condescending manner. These men often become victims living with a secret shame until it is too late to escape a painful situation without serious consequences.

I am writing this book to show how they can rid themselves of an otherwise hopeless or perceived hopless circumstance. It is especially for those who do not feel able to reach out for help the way I did. From what I can see we men do not share these feelings until we cannot take it anymore. Then they snap, beat up and or kill the woman and wind up on the six o' clock news. What the woman may have done to provoke this violent, extreme behavior is ignored. Fortunately, I reached out to a lone-time female friend who is a clinical psychologist and who helped me to express my feelings, understand my situation and guide me in a more sensible, safe and hopeful direction.

My wish is that this book can be instructive in showing how to break the cycle of abuse, end a destructive situation and become victorious. My objective in altering my life was primarily to save my son and secondarily, to save myself.

I have never heard of a case like mine which is why I felt compelled to take pen in hand to start the writing process. I have been meaning to for many years since I feel this non-fiction story needed to be told.

This is a candid account of what happened to me. Since I started talking about and writing about it, I got to know others who are going through similar domestic trauma at the hands of an abusive woman. Do not get me wrong, I am not a woman hater. I believe most are gentle, caring and kindly, but there are some who do not meet that standard, yet the stereotype persists, and it is hard, almost impossible for men dealing with the abusive woman to be heard or believed.

I am not going to tell you my story from beginning to end like story book, but at end you will have the whole story. This book is intended to be like a roller coaster ride which is like life often is. It is filled with teenage discipline techniques, violence, doestic espionage, punishment, war strategy, deception, treachery, sex, manipulation, lies, video tapes and yes, even humor. So, you might want to buckle up because it may be a bumpy ride.